Secretive passions.

         Well... this is me. My friend needed a model for his photography work and asked me to be his model. After it was over, I had a long think about what I want to do in life. Is it unreal to say I want to be a model? I mean nearly all the girls my age would probably have this same answer. But only a few of them make it, or at least do something about it. I want to do something about it. But with my strict parents, all they want is good grades and a high end job that involves me sitting at a desk, earning lots of money. I don't want that, I want to do something I feel deeply passionate about, and something I'd have to work my f******g ass off to get to. Something I'd be proud of. To me that's modelling. The idea of competing against all those beautiful, skinny girls is off the charts THRILLING and exciting. But to one day realise that you've made it... that's the real envied feeling. Would it be wrong to go against my parents wishes? Would it be wrong to follow my real ambition? Would it be wrong to follow my passion and my drive?



The Media’s Dangerous Target!

12 year old runway model

Is 8 year old Willow Smith being deprived of her childhood?

One of Angelina Jolie's more pornographic shoots

Should we be thrilling over this?

Why don't we just let our girls walk around like this? I mean we all seem to adore her so much in every way

This should definitely be made in smaller sizes for young girls

We all envy her, so do our girls.

Should 17 year old so called 'role models' be pole dancing in front of the entire world?

Nothing says I'm pure like a tight, white corset showing your privates.

The new it girl. Nothing to say.

Yup, definitely a great role model right there.

Fame isn't earned, it's given. Selective sampling obviously.

OUR GIRLS ‘HAD’ A FUTURE, however, thanks to society their innocent, developing minds now have the media acting as their conscience. Young girls are by far the most vulnerable amongst what the media’s idea of the ’ideal’ woman should look like and what ‘average’ is. From Television adverts, to magazine front covers and five page spreads in beauty magazines, there are now more and more ways of promoting ‘beauty’.
          Young girls from the ages of twelve to newly turned adults are at the most uncomfortable they’ve ever been in all generations. The all important talks of sexuality and physical appearance are at their peak, and instead of building up the courage to say ‘NO’, we are embracing the outrageous photo shoots of twelve year olds in see-through tops, posing like famous pornographic icons.A twelve year old girl shouldn’t be spending her pocket money on fashion and beauty magazines, flicking through pages and pages of absolute nonsense , from fake tans, to outrageous eye blinding glittering lashes. Instead they should be out enjoying their youth and having sleepless sleepovers eating all the junk in the world, NOT counting the amount of calories on the back of a ‘salt and vinegar’crisp. 

The media should be portraying:
 Intelligent women with high ambitions, graduating from Oxford and Cambridge University
 Women with a passion for maths and science, and dressed respectably chic 

NOT women with:
 ´ Barely five C grades at GCSE
 ´ With glued on plastic eyelashes, unable to grab a thing because of their acrylic nails
 ´ Unable to smile because their faces have been injected with Botox
 ´ Stiletto heels the size of Mount Everest
 ´ Breasts bouncier than a ping pong ball, and of course weak, trembling legs because of a lack of glucose in their bloodstream. 
           Scientists have defined evolution as ‘A gradual process in which something changes into a different and usually more complex or better form’. What exactly is the media doing to benefit this theory?, to me it seems like the reverse of evolution is taking place, we are now ‘something’ that ischanging into a fake and less complex form. The media can be used for things so much moreimportant and worth our time, like poverty in less economically developed countries, helping those who’ve experienced natural disasters get back on track, saving our planet by promoting new,resourceful sources of energy and so on, NOT destroying our future. We are all aware of this issue but yet we choose to ignore the cries of all the helpless young girls out there.
             However, it is not just these girls, there’s mothers too. Mothers play the most important role in this issue. They are the ones bringing these beauty and weight loss magazines into their homes,watching endless replays of dieting and fashion T.V shows, and weighing themselves on the scale every morning to check if that un-levelled teaspoon of sugar in their coffee has added a few grams to their ‘almost perfect’ weight. Young girls will watch, follow and do. It’s what they’re programmed to do since birth when the social learning theory of monkey see, monkey do kicked into their cognitive systems. It is our duty to make sure our girls are raised to the best standards, and able to achieve their fullest potential in life. But at this state, they’ll only end up with zero self esteem, always worrying about that hair which never stays in place, slapping on as much foundation as possible to the point where they won’t even be able to recognise themselves in the mirror and faint at the site of a minuscule pimple.
             The developing technology of today’s society has a big role to play. Before, young girls came home from school, had their tea and went to their bedrooms to do homework before hurrying down to watch the latest ‘Hannah Montana’ episode. Now, young girls get home from school and log straight onto their laptops to read the latest gossip on celebrities and read fashion and beauty blogs on what the latest hairstyle is, and whether leggings are still in. I suppose skipping Hannah Montana is now a bonus as even the Disney channel has eighteen year old girls who are on every front magazine cover in LA’s newest celeb nightclub, lap dancing next to fifty year old perverts. Surely it doesn’t have to be this way, we do not have to accept something which the media thinks is appropriate for practically anyone to see. We don’t have to agree to something that is clearly wrong, or else what are we teaching our kids? That other people’s opinions always come first? . . .



A lie - Flouting or Violating?

Rihanna - 2010 hair cut

Some of us think we can trick ourselves into believing something that is blatantly wrong. We do it because we want to believe the people around us are good. We do it because we want to be loved. We don't want to judge, or be judged. But is it worth losing who you are along the way?. I'm completely baffled by those of us who do something because we think others will think highly of it and give us their stamp of approval. We let ourselves feel like it's judgement day, everyday. I can 100% relate to this. For years now my main concern has been my hair. I don't know what to call it. I've been on a rollercoaster ride of a love/hate relationship with my hair. I have fairly long afro/Caribbean hair, but not 100% coarse. Maybe 60% coarse to 40% fine. In the past I've relaxed my hair, cut my hair, straightened my hair and contemplated perming my hair. To me, I'd rather just chop it all off (or at least 3/4 of it). To me, my hair no longer has an importance, well it never did, or maybe that's what I try to tell myself. That it's not important, and I can do whatever I wish upon it. All those years of not treating my hair like it was suppose to be treated is really starting to show now. It's dry, damaged, got split ends and the frequent dry scalp from over-washing. If I wasn't living under my parent's strict roof, I'd have my hair cut short and relaxed because I think I’d find it easier to manage that way. But do I really want to get rid of all my hair just to look like a sensationally beautiful pop star? Most people would answer yes to this. I guess a small part of me would too, but I just don't like to think of it that way. I want short hair like hers because it looks beautiful, it looks low maintenance and it will be less hassle to do my hair everyday. Plus, I'd also get rid of all those damaged ends and start fresh. However what I can't bring myself to realise is the real reason to why I want to go to the hairdressers and hand them a picture of Rihanna's hair do and ask to have it replicated as my own. Would I be doing it for me? Or for society?. A (big) part of me would be doing it so I could fit in with the new hairdos and 'what's in'. All the young girls (even mothers) out there are following trend after trend of what the new ‘thing’ is and imitating celebrities’ lifestyles. Why? Because it makes them feel important, it gives them a boost in confidence and they feel as if they’ve accomplished something because finally they feel accepted by society. It makes them feel part of the dangerous norm and the ever rapidly progressing new generation of fakes and new makes.
My note on that? > Be who you want to be <